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Finding A Therapist Who Fits You!


You've been coping with your personal issues and mental health struggles for some time now. You've debate seeking help for a while; just attempting strategies that you believed you could manage alone. But, this is it! You've finally reached your breaking point. You decide, "I need to talk to someone about all of this; it's just becoming too much."

So, you search the web for days and ask around for ideas and locations for a therapist you hope will understand you and your issues. Finally, your apointment is set, and now you're on your way towards getting the help you've been desperately needing.

After arriving at your first session, several things just didn't go how you imagined. Arg!!!... Now what??

Choosing a therapist can be a daunting task, especially if you don't make a connection on the first try. Here are six (6) things that you can consider while seeking a therapist who fits you and your needs:

  1. Specialities: Does your therapist indicate that he/she specializes in or focuses on the issues that you are dealing with? Finding a therapist that places a special emphasis on the things you are battling with is likely a good indicator that he/she can connect more readily with your needs. 
  2. Distance: Does the distance of your therapist matter for you? Sometimes your ability to follow through on and complete your full scope of counseling sessions, (10-14), may be connected with how far from home or work your therapist office is. Also, are the available therapy hours aligned with the distance and/or your needs. 
  3. Location: Does the location of your therapy office make you feel comfortable? Talking to a stranger about your intimate concerns is not easy to begin with. It's even worse if the physical space makes you feel even more uncomfortable. See if your therapist provides images of his/her space or ask around for reviews of the therapy office. That way you can avoid entering an unknown office building or space that makes you cringe at the sight of the creepy images/decor or uncomfortable seating. This could make for a long first session!
  4. Insurance Billing: Are you seeking to use your insurance plan's mental health benefits? Be sure to inquire upfront with your therapist about accepted insurance plans. If yes, great! You're all set. If the answer is no for your insurance, be sure to ask about out-of-network claims support. A 'no' may just mean that you can private pay upfront and receive (partial/full) insurance reimbursement. *Note: not all therapists are able to provide this benefit.
  5. Private Payments: Are you seeking to private pay for your services? Great! This can be an advantage for individuals who value privacy of their mental health information. But, also if you don't have an insurance plan that accepts your therapy provider. Also, some insurance providers may limit the number of counseling sessions that they will cover. Be sure to check in with your insurance company about this in advance: or ask your therapist if he/she can assist you with obtaining this information. 
  6. Rapport!!!: THE most important factor of all is the connection you are able to make with your therapist. After all other factors are assessed, the most critical is how the therapist makes you feel. Did you feel heard and understood? Was the focus of the session YOU? Do you feel like you can be authentic and open up? If the answer is yes, then it's very likely that you've got a winner! Growth and progress can be made when a strong relationship and trust can be established with your therapist. 

So, as you begin your journey towards personal development through therapy, be sure to consider these factors. In doing so, you're likely to sail smoothly on your journey. Remember, if at first you don't succeed, try again. All therapists are different, and there is likely one in the field who is ready and able to connect with you!

~ Authored by V. Works